Information on battering

"90-95% of domestic violence victims are women" --1994 Bureau of Justice

If you are in an abusive relationship and need immediate help please call 911, or our 24-hour crisis line (763) 559-4945.

What is battering?

Battering is more than physical violence. It is a pattern of behaviors that gets worse over time. These behaviors are used to gain and maintain power and control over another person. In addition to the use of physical violence, battering involves isolation, intimidation, emotional abuse and more.

You may be in a battering relationship if you:

  • have ever been threatened, hit, kicked, shoved, or had things thrown at you by your partner.
  • need your partner's permission before buying food or clothing, writing checks or making other daily decisions.
  • often go along with plans you don't like because you're afraid of your partner's anger.
  • are often accused by your partner of things you've never done.
  • make choices about activities and friends according to how your partner will react.
  • feel you have no choice about what you wear, what you say, who you spend time with or where you go.

    What should I do if I am in an abusive relationship?

    Only you know what is best for you. You can call the police if you have been assaulted, or you can call our 24-hour crisis line (763) 559-4945. Home Free Advocates are available to listen to your concerns and offer information on domestic violence, options and resources. We support the decisions that you make and work with you to met your goals.

    What should I do if I know someone who is in a battering relationship?

  • Listen to her and believe her.
  • Help her get medical attention if she needs it.
  • Let her know she is not alone and that she does not deserve to be battered.
  • Let her make her own decisions. Only she knows what's best for herself.
  • Let her know she has options and encourage her to call Home Free or a battered women's program near her.

    You can also get more information on battering and domestic violence through these links:

    National Domestic Violence Hotline

    Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women

    Family Violence Prevention Fund

    National Coalition Against Domestic Violence